i think you are asexual because you feel you are asexual and that you absolutely are allowed to call yourself asexual. you know, i see this a lot, of people wondering if it’s alright to identify with something because What If One Day I Feel Differently
well, i say screw One Day. just throw the notion of One Day out the window. stomp it under your heel, rip it to pieces, and set it damn thing on fire
because guess what? One Day doesn’t matter. i mean, yes obviously it WILL matter, but it doesn’t right now. because One Day is not today, or even tomorrow. you don’t know what One Day could be, you shouldn’t waste your time worrying yourself in circles about it
whatever you like or feel Right Now counts. it matters just as much as One Day, if not more, because Right Now is what is happening, it is what you’re living. you haven’t lived One Day yet, of course you don’t know how you’re going to feel One Day. no one does!!
whatever you feel Right Now is valid in and of itself, just because it is what you feel. you can’t quantify what you’ll feel One Day because haven’t lived it yet, but you CAN quantify what you feel Right Now. what you feel Right Now is what matters
honestly, the concept of What If One Day is so, so harmful and damaging to the young people of this world. and i’m not talking about being prepared for the future. the future is the future. it’s important to plan ahead and have goals. the future is different from One Day
because What If One Day is tool that other people, usually older than you, use to invalidate you, to dismiss your feelings and your experiences. when they say “don’t call yourself that, you might feel differently one day.” what they are saying is "i don’t like when you call yourself that, don’t call yourself that, because one day you might feel how /i/ think you /should/ feel, and until you feel that way, i won’t acknowledge your experiences as valid"
One Day is a trap. One Day is you realizing you were wrong and that you’re actually heterosexual and have been so ~all along~. One Day is bullshit
yes, some day in the future your feelings might be different, but that doesn’t make what you feel right now invalid. it just means you changed. it doesn’t mean you never felt this way, it doesn’t mean that what you’re feeling right now is made up or fake. change happens to all of us, in all sorts of ways, and yes sometimes even to our sexuality
but if you do feel differently One Day, then that just means you changed. and it doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be straight. you could end being gay or bi, or if you meet “right person” demisexual
the future involves change. and it’s important to be open to change, it’s important to be prepared for it. but in the instance of your sexuality possibly changing, it just means you’ll need to find a new label. there, now you’re prepared
you are absolutely allowed to identify as asexual if that’s how you feel Right Now. that’s what labels are for, to describe our experiences, to describe how feel, present tense. you can’t put a label on something you haven’t experienced yet, and you shouldn’t have to worry about doing so!!
i’m gonna link these three posts, because they’re rants i’ve made before that relate to this. and i’m going to go ahead and put a direct link to this post by anagnori, because they’ve said it much more eloquently
in closing, don’t worry about What If One Day. be ace and be proud Right Now!!